The Integrated Man: Maturing Into Presence

Embody your authentic power

A 10-week online healing container for sensitive, self-aware men who long to lead from their whole self

  • Unlearn self-sabotage

  • Unblock your life force

  • Unleash your potential

BEING A "GOOD MAN" CAN FEEL LIKE WEARING A COSTUME

The dominant culture's version of masculinity is a distorted stereotype. Without authentic models for something better (now or in childhood), too many men are left re-enacting a role that doesn't feel right.

It's no wonder we often feel out of alignment and without agency.

Most people are children only pretending to be adults

Subconscious forces in our bodies—cultural, ancestral, and preverbal imprints—can keep men locked in limiting mindsets and behaviors.

But you don't have to stay stuck there. You came by this sh*t honestly, and you can release it fully.

The Integrated Man invites you into an evolutionary process that leads to embodied empowerment for both you and the people you lead.

PRESENCE FUELS POTENCY

When men learn to be present—when they uncouple from the hidden mechanics directing their lives in the shadows—they become:

✧ Emancipated from outdated models of manhood

✧ Unbridled in the pursuit of their full potential

✧ Aligned with the flow of energy within and without

✧ Attuned to their partners in the depths of embodiment and sensuality

✧ Free to invoke their masculine and feminine life force

✧ Surefooted enough to meet the needs of their own younger parts

PROGRAM DETAILS

EMBODIMENT IS BEST PRACTICED IN COMMUNITY

The Integrated Man is a live, cohort-based, online healing container

Group Sessions

  • Intentions + Integration

    2 required sessions

    We begin this journey by sharing our intentions and end by reflecting on our individual and collective experience.

  • Somatic Therapeutic Coaching

    4 required sessions

    Each man receives two somatic coaching turns, in the group context, to integrate his inner child and anchor his adult.

  • Learning Sessions

    1 required, 3 recommended sessions

    Topics will reflect the specific needs of each cohort, and may include the 8 Principles of Highly Functional Groups; The Path to Remothering Yourself through Inner Baby Work; and more.

Practice + Peer Support

  • Wingman Buddy System

    Receive peer support via check-ins with another cohort member on a parallel journey.

  • The Deep: Private Online Community

    Connect with your guides and cohort members for accountability and support between sessions.

  • Journal Prompts + Homework

    Track your progress and cultivate a deeper sense of presence through directed introspection and personal practice.

Bonuses

  • Communication Playshops

    2 recommended sessions

    Upgrade your relational leadership skills through more sophisticated listening and truth-telling.

  • Continuum Movement Dives

    2 recommended sessions

    Embrace sensuality and amplify pleasure through guided, somatic meditations.

  • Somatic Meditations Library

    unlimited access

    Invite your body to show you how to escape survival mode and restore emotional balance in your life.

APPLY NOW

  • “I am deeply touched by Elan’s laser ability to perceive and name the root of what keeps people from taking the next steps in their lives. His ability to be in touch with his most tender parts, to embody his feminine self and masculine self makes him exceptional with men. He will take you on a journey and you will come back stronger, more embodied and connected to who you are than when you started.“

    Christina Earthwater Ricchi

    Somatic Practitioner

    Friend and Regular Collaborator

  • "Elan brings such depth, presence, and attunement that working with him opens possibilities. It's like he sees the landscape way deeper than I can see my own. Specifically, our work together opened me up to being more present in sexual intimacy. It has let me unsubscribe from stories society has set about what sex should be or how I should be. I'm more comfortable with slowness. I'm ok with things pausing or stopping in a way that I wasn't before. It's made my sex life so much better."

    Jeremy Gildman

    Marriage and Family Therapist

  • “I feel Elan is uniquely gifted. From the moment I met him, I felt a sense of safety and trust that supported my body to relax and open. I appreciate how sensitively he attunes to each person's process as well as the group field. At the same time, he feels grounded in his humanity and vulnerability, which also allows me to feel safer to drop into those places in myself. If you are seeking support for deep healing and tender nourishment for your body and inner child, you will be in very safe and skilled hands with Elan."

    Ryan Brennan
    MA Transpersonal Counseling, Naropa University

  • “Receiving Elan’s presence, grounding, and love are some of the most transformative and powerful moments I’ve experienced in my entire adult life.”

    Dr. Blake Brandes

    Youth Speaker and Hip-Hop Educator

MEET YOUR GUIDES

You don't have to do this alone

Elan Freydenson

Lead Facilitator

Over the last 20+ years, I’ve taken my own journey through chronic pain, numbness, and fear of intimacy to land in a place of deep embodiment and potency. 

What I learned along the way: We're not designed to heal by ourselves. Your most tender places deserve to be seen, met, and held.

  • Twice-trained biodynamic craniosacral therapist

  • Authorized Continuum Movement® teacher

  • Twice-trained in Ray Castellino's Prenatal and Birth Therapy

  • Trained in Daniel Foor’s Ancestral Repair

  • Registered Somatic Movement Therapist

Theo Tehrani 

Program Assistant & Relational Leadership Coach

Investing in my own development has illuminated how my family system, environment, and culture have created obvious patterns that show up time and time again in my intimate relationships with women.

Through my work into the spiritual and somatic realms, I help people have better relationships by learning to listen intuitively and communicate more effectively.

This work is not for beginners

You may be ready if you:

✓ Are on a healing path and are actively reparenting your inner child(ren)

✓ Are exploring and enjoying body-based healing modalities (somatic experiencing, breathwork, conscious dance, somatic therapy, sexological bodywork, Tantra, Yoga, Qi Gong, craniosacral etc.)

✓ Serve in a leadership role in your home, community, or company

Your well-being is worth the commitment

Your $2,301 program fee includes 18 hours of required group sessions and 10 hours of recommended group sessions. The Integrated Man is an intensive—but one that doesn't require travel and allows you to stay in your normal life. Payment plans are available.

Still, resistance around the commitment of time or money is natural. Before you give into "I can't," ask yourself: How much time have I wasted spinning my wheels? How much have self-judgment, doubt, and the status quo cost me?

Your path to presence

  • 01 | Invest

    Choose to invest in yourself and, by extension, the people you lead.

  • 02 | Inquire

    Uncover and tend to the hidden forces blocking you from expressing your full potential.

  • 03 | Integrate

    Gain the inner mastery required for a powerful, meaningful life.

 To curate an advanced, embodied experience for all, Elan will interview each applicant.If you're selected, we'll send you a registration link.

Common Questions

  • $2,301 for 28 hours of group sessions, plus community and access to a custom somatic meditation library. We offer a pay-in-full discount of $201.

  • Yes. You can choose to make three monthly payments of $767 each ($2301 total).

  • Integrated Man participants may purchase a package of three, hour-long 1:1 sessions with Elan for $1,000 (a $2,000 value). Limited to four spots. You will be tracked more closely and receive additional support in between group calls. All 1:1 sessions must be used within four months of the start of the program.

  • There's no one better to guide you through this than a sensitive man whose been where you are now and has found his way through to power and connection. And if gender still does feel right, Elan can refer you elsewhere for similar work.

  • This is an active and organic enrollment process. We are currently gathering the men for this program. Sign up for an alignment conversation. Once we have enough men, we will set dates for that work for the cohort.

  • We will set exact dates once we have most of the men for this program. Required 2.5 hour calls occur once every other week and on interim weeks there will be two recommended calls. A sample schedule is visible here, but these dates are not valid.

  • Yes, all calls will be recorded and made available for viewing and download in The Deep (the online community platform).

  • Yes, in order to maintain a clear group field and to be able to navigate chemical and drug imprinting that may arise in participants early history during the group coaching turns and other sessions we ask for a level of sobriety of the participants. Participants are asked to reframe from plant medicine, animal medicine, alcohol, tobacco and psychedelics including micro-dosing up to 48 hours before each group call or private 1:1 session.

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Sensitivity is your superpower

Our world needs more from you. More of you.

When you stop hanging out in your triggered child and instead lead from your empowered, embodied adult, your impact will be undeniable. 
The Integrated Man provides a healing container for that evolution.